"It all comes down to the wings"
The Doc is a big fan of Herbert Renz-Polster - a paediatrician colleague and well-known author. The Doc is always happy to receive books from him! This time too, although he has one small criticism ..
As the title suggests, the book is about the fact that education should also and above all be empowering. That we should give our children wings or give them the time to develop their wings. So that they can later go out into the world independently. So that they also develop a certain resilience and strength to be able to deal with sorrowful and painful experiences. To do this, we as adults must be able to endure when the child is not doing so well emotionally. We have to stand by them, but not keep every negative experience away from them.
Herbert Renz-Polster manages to convey all of this very well, with a great deal of warmth and understanding for parents and families. And that's why the Doc gives it a very clear recommendation to read. As is actually the case for every book by Renz-Polster.
However, the doctor has one critical comment this time: he feels that the book lacks a little clarity in places. Herbert Renz-Polster has perhaps fallen into the trap that is also part of the zeitgeist. That is to say, to show understanding for everything and everyone so as not to embarrass anyone or step on any parents' toes. A kind of hyper-understanding.
And Herbert Renz-Polster in particular, whose tone is so warming and heartfelt, doesn't need that at all. And so there is a lack of clarity in places. One chapter, for example, is headed with the question "Isn't 'no' always a bit of a compulsion?". Of course it is, but that's also okay. If, for example, a child wants to run around freely on the main road and not walk by the hand, then a clear "no" is the only sensible option. And parents would be better off if we took a very clear stance from time to time.
But all in all: great book, clear recommendation!
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U6 screening
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Health letter
A somewhat more difficult topic today - but one that we paediatricians are very concerned about. Because we are very often confronted with the fact that we are supposed to give a child a "clean bill of health". In other words, we are asked to certify schools, nurseries or childminders: This child is healthy. But we can't do that.
Drowning
Anyone who knows me from practical experience knows that I am usually very relaxed and not very anxious when it comes to parenting and development issues and often advise people not to take a too tense view of things. But when it comes to today's topic, there is simply zero room for compromise. It's one of the most important issues in paediatrics: the risk of children drowning.